Postcards to Ivy

Looking very likely that I will need to seek assistance of the NZ family courts. Dismayed, but not at all surprised. Given that my understanding is that I no longer have any legal responsibilities pertaining to my daughter, all I can do is speak out about my concerns with the courts and then watch whatever the NZ state decides to do. My legal 'rights' are conditional on my daughter's mother complying. I don't consider rights to be rights if they are devoid of any responsibilities and devoid of any meaningful ability to have choice. Therefore, it follows, I have no legal rights with regards to my daughter anymore, nor she with me. It is a brutal legal consequence of what follows when a state supports a request to remove a child from one legal jurisdiction to another.

In an email received earlier from Ivy's Mum is this: I haven't heard back yet about Skype times for this weekend, if I don't hear from you Ivy will call you at 8am our time (8pm yours). Please do let me know if you can't talk then, to avoid disappointment. Last weekend I told Ivy that our next Skype would be on Sunday evening her time. If I was in anyway respected by my daughter's mother, neither I or Ivy would have to face these situations. Thanks to the legal position, I'm just going to have to learn to live with abuse.

Ivy's Mum emailed this earlier: We have got another two postcards this week, so I think we are all caught up now to 8th Sept. The postie mentioned that there had been an international complaint laid about the speed of delivery of postcards to our address? She was really nice, she apologised but said that they are delivered as soon as she receives them. I don't think it's been too bad, at worst they were arriving 2 weeks after the date on the cards. Contradicting prior statements, but that's completely normal. Honesty isn't something I expect now from Ivy's mother. 

Ivy's nursery informed me that the postcard arrived this week. Maybe the new delivery system in NZ means that there's now a 10 day time lag. Still, by rights sending a card each week should mean that once the time lag is reached each one should be getting through each week in theory. I've been asked not to highlight that it's odd that the cards don't appear to be arriving regularly. I've also been asked not to say that maybe her mother is withholding the cards. I've never made that assertion. Indeed, my views on her mother's actions won't be shared with Ivy, at best, for many years, and maybe never will.

I was told during the Skype last weekend that the previous postcards had all suddenly arrived. The two I sent last week apparently haven't got through to either Ivy's nursery or her home as yet.